New decade, new name!

Unleashing the Cougar is no more

Welcome, everyone, to the new-look me! You can expect the same sassy attitude, thoughtful, soul-searching articles, and sexy, authentic stories as you’ve enjoyed for the past two and a bit years since I launched this blog in September 2017.

My new home page tells the story about why I’ve moved away from the whole cougar thing, but just between you and me, I always felt it was a bit of a liability.

For the long term, it was not an identity that resonated, especially since I now have a partner who’s a member of my own generation! And for those of you new to my story, I met him online. You can read about it here.

It’s been at least 18 months since I even thought of a pretty young thing. Nothing against younger men – they can still turn my head – but when I found myself single after a long, long marriage, it was an itch I needed to scratch.

I married young. When I was last single, I was in my late teens. I guess it’s only natural (and not uncommon) that I defaulted again to younger men, sometimes a lot younger! I experimented with living poly solo for a couple of years, and during that time had several ongoing relationships with men significantly my junior. The closest was my intimate partner who was half my age.

It was quite a journey into dating again as an adult, an awful lot of disappointing sex with new partners (and some good times too), new friendships, and a few meaningful but rebellious relationships. I needed to question everything and give voice to the stifled young woman who’d played wife and mum for too long.

Those three-plus years dating again helped me to realise that I am, in fact, in mid life. And that’s OK. I’m getting closer, as I get older, with accepting who I am NOW – not who I was at 18, or 25 or 38. My life is still a work in progress, as is this blog, which I will gradually hone to distance myself from the ‘cougar’ notion and name.

I’ve got a ripper of a feature interview coming up next, so stay tuned, check your inbox and catch you soon!

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Eve 

 

28 thoughts on “New decade, new name!

    1. What can’t you believe my dears? That I loathe the term ‘cougar’ and its negative connotations? Sadly, I can’t push uphill alone to redefine that word. Onwards and upwards towards my book being widely accessible and read across the world! As Scarlett would say, “Yassss!”

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  1. I absolutely love this blog. I’ve learnt so much more about the world of dating and navigating my way back into it after a long hiatus offline and not dating. It’s entertaining, funny, and vulnerable.

    I love the new name too. I’d love to read a book. Will there be a book? Please say yes!

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  2. Finding this blog was a godsend for me, Eve’s candid account of her sexual expeditions mirrored my own experiences in the midlife dating quagmire. Ten out of ten for real-life accuracy and thrilling reading – I can’t wait to get my hands on the book.

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  3. Hello my friend. The new direction was inevitable now that you are happily settled, and I am very happy for you.
    I guess that in these circumstances it must be a challenge to write new content, though, whilst still retaining the spirit of your blog? I will be interested to see your future writing for sure!
    I admire you greatly for your honest writing and your free-spirited nature and you were an inspiration to me when I started my own blog. Wishing you all the best!

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  4. Love the new name, babe. Just wanted to say that your blog is so bloody refreshing! Older women’s sexuality is so often packaged as shameful or the butt of a joke, and is rarely shared from the woman’s perspective, at least in popular culture. You write of the complexities of mid-life dating and mating with great honesty and thoughtfulness, balancing the intimate and personal with the broader perspective. So many women find themselves on this journey in mid-life and need authentic voices like yours to help make sense of their own experiences and, more than that, know that they’re not alone. Thank you for sharing.

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