Emerging from mid-life invisibility

Midlife is a time when we are sometimes forced to let go of the old. It can be brutal and unforgiving. There comes a time when – woman or man – we can’t call ourselves quite as ravishing as before, years ago. At least in the eyes of our youth-worshipping culture.

I adore this post that I’m sharing with you today. I love the way Claudette has expressed so much in a single piece of heartfelt writing. I totally get where she is coming from, though not in the same way, because we are individuals worlds apart. There is so much wisdom and self-knowledge here.

Being a midlife mother working in the home says a lot about how she’d come to feel this way. Being a mother to teens adds volumes to that feeling (might as well define invisible). Being in a long-term relationship could well be another layer to the cloak. It’s a classic midlife female thing – but maybe men too have their own version? I know many of you will relate. I’d love to know your responses to the questions she raises – where do you get your self-esteem and self-image? You’ll find my answers on Claudette’s blog. Read on if you dare!

Writer of Words, etc

Years ago something apparently insignificant happened to me. Since I’ve been thinking about it on and off for years, perhaps it wasn’t so insignificant after all.

I have some thoughts.

I am, after all, a writer and this is a blog and I like to hurl words about my thoughts out into the internet. 🙂

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Honey… please fix that profile.

Scarlett has nailed it in this list of advice for the single fellow wanting to impress a potential mate on his dating site profile! It’s not hard – or at least it doesn’t seem so to most people – just follow her sage advice and make an effort. This goes both ways, even I have been guilty in the past of not posting body shots because they’re so damn hard to take if you want to do it on the sly and not make a fuss. Lesson learned – although it never went against me anyway!

Year of Discovery

Smiling, eyes, well-lit.

Left, left, left, swipe left.

Looking at these stupid Tinder profiles.

Really? Come on.

You are gonna post a fuzzy picture of you frowning at me and think I want to swipe right.

Let’s start with photos darlings.

Photo #1: Your Face

We want to see that mug first, no sunglasses. Eyes are the window to the soul. What are you covering up?

A focused photo please, wipe off your goddamn lense and make sure the photo is sharp. Take 50 if you need to get one good one.

Get in some light, like by a window shining on your face. Yes it matters. Now I know it feels weird and awkward to smile at that camera but pretend the love of your life is behind that camera and she just said something that made you smile or laugh. Take as many as you need and move…

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